THE GOAL OF HAPPINESS Catch 22 WE LOVE CHIC LLC
Periodically, we find ourselves in a place where we make so many sacrifices for others that we, unknowingly, chip away at our own happiness. Simply because we always say … Yes!
We lend our listening ears and give advice which ultimately requires us to give… our time. We give our cash money to those in need. And we do countless favors just to ensure someone else’s happiness.
While giving is totally worth wild;
For with laughter comes peace,
With listening gains deeper understanding..and
With time, comes healing and the ability to love in new ways we didn’t know we could …but
Above all… we deserve respect!
And at the very least, some solid APPRECIATION!
And that people can give..
We give, and give more without ever receiving sometimes… until it begins to take a toll on us.
Giving can sometimes make us feel a sense of resentment.
People find themselves becoming callus because they begin to feel used.
The real question is: “Why do people take and rarely show appreciation.”
Welcome to our world today!
A place where everyone feels entitled, hard work sometimes goes unnoticed due to the over-streamed popularity contests held by so called gurus on social media, and the “I don’t care” attitudes that people simply need to do away with. It has become a culture. And that is what we are working with folks…in case you didn’t know.
If people do show appreciation, it’s the bare… dry… minimum of what appreciation they could have extended. That is until it suits them of course.
And this is all because there are compassion-less people who know exactly how to take advantage of people and situations.
Here are some ways to quickly work toward your goals to happiness:
YOUR HAPPINESS, FIRST
-Simply say NO! … Enough said
-Take the time to think of how making the time to help someone else will impact your schedule, children’s lifestyle, financial situation, alone time, or physical stress levels.
~Unless you are giving to your children it isn’t necessarily your responsibility to overextend yourself to others.
~Please be advised, children may never understand the capacity of all the sacrifices their parents make for them until they themselves have children of their own.-Project how the decision of saying yes… may affect your partner, lover or spouse. What works for one, may not work for another. And instead of causing a tornado of an argument inside the home, consult with your mate or, get a second opinion.
Even when we think we are giving from the heart we become powerless when we feel like we are forced in a position where we cant say no! After a while, there comes a time where we must make decisive decisions that contribute to our own happiness, FIRST. And that does involve other people, hence the saying, “Happy wife, happy life”. Let me spell that out for you, you will never hear the end of it if you make a decision without your wife’s consent first, especially if she doesn’t like the decision you made. This works on both sides of the playing field.
Please do not misunderstand, we did not say be selfish and not give to others when they truly need us. We said to put yourselves first!
Like the flight attendant or aircraft pilot that directs us to, to the time of an emergency, put on our own oxygen masks first! Yes, it sounds a bit selfish at first but if you don’t take care of yourself first, you aren’t truly in the position to help another.
So many little things bother us at times to where it just becomes a huge cluster growing into the snowball effect. It isn’t until our worlds become chaotic that we realize, “Maybe I’m taking on too much”.
Until we take “personal time” to identify with why we say, ‘Yes’, when we really mean, ‘NO’, can ever begin the process of reaching the ultimate goal of happiness. To reach this ultimate happiness, we must take account for our own happiness first!
THE CATCH 22 USE DISCERNMENT…
- If the individual you’re helping is making the same mistake repetitiously, understand that they still have hard lessons to learn. And some of those lessons may be harder to pick up on than others. But for now, as Randy Jackson would say, “It’s a no for me Dawg!”
- If you notice that there is NEVER a win win scenario with them. They are never thinking of your best interest… like, ever. You saying yes, is legitimately ALWAYS only to better suit them.
- Size up weather the person you’re giving to is simply selfish. They are always looking for AND expecting a hand out. So much to the point where it has become habitual for them to look to you as their source.
All in all, we still find ourselves in positions where we love so much to the point where we find ourselves stuck between a rock in a hard place when we should simply just say NO! Be aware that a lot of people will purposely try to make you feel guilty when you say no and … that’s wrong my friend.
It can be extremely difficult to say no but…
It’s okay to say no SOMETIMES, yes… it is OK.
Say yes to thinking of you and your family first. Ultimately, you are entitled AND responsible for your own happiness so, do your due diligence and TAKE CONTROL!
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